DEAR ABBY: My 95-year-old mother has been healthy until recently. She’s in an independent living facility and is happy there. I’m the primary caretaker for her medical needs as her heart has weakened, and she’s now under palliative care.

My sister “Julie,” who lives out of state, has decided to place a camera in Mom’s home and track and record her day and night. Although Mom doesn’t mind the camera, it makes me uncomfortable to be constantly watched and monitored while visiting and assisting her.

Although Mom doesn’t mind the camera, it makes me uncomfortable to be constantly watched and monitored while visiting and assisting her. Julie gets angry if I cover the I’m there. When I remove the cover,

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for 30 years. For the past five years, I’ve noticed that he is acting a little different. He’s lost a lot of weight. I found out he’s been smoking drugs. He had this problem years ago, and I thought we had it beat. But now I’m getting the impression that maybe you can’t ever beat it.

A drug user, he won't explain what he's doing at the place, but a tracker shows he was there and his wife suspects he's cheating.